I am just back from attending a funeral for someone i didn’t know, i was there to support my wife and her best friend, who is the brother of the deceased.
The thing is, during the service my mind went for a stroll down my own mortality and i found myself thinking about my own funeral, and running through what i would like done to mark my passing.
As a shamanic practitioner and Pagan, i want something that reflects me and my beliefs, so i found myself thinking of a drumming guard of honour up the aisles, or, more fitting for me, a drumming guard of honour leading up to a large pyre with me placed on the top of it. It would be somewhere out in nature, a quiet place, near a river with friends and family drumming or shaking rattles as i was carried in and laid on the pyre before it is lit.
It should be a celebration of my life, not a sterile “well, he was born in 1964, lived, married and died, thanks for coming”. That would do an injustice to my Spirit. Now, i am not saying i am above anyone else, far from it, but there is so much more to a life than just the “physical data” that can be looked up in a book or records.
What made me tick, what are my foibles and idiosyncrasy’s, the things that drive me, those are the sorts of things i would like remembered at my funeral.
Music. Music is important to me, i can be moved by music, so there will be passages of my favourite songs. Ride of the Valkyries will definitely feature, probably as the pyre is lit, “to let them know that i am coming and they had better be ready”
all of this went racing through my mind as i sat through the service today.
What is it about funerals? and am i the only one who plans his own funeral while attending someone else’s?
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